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		<title>By: I&#8217;m Back &#124; Karen J Lloyd\'s Storyboard Blog</title>
		<link>http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/2009/02/27/dealing-with-feedback/comment-page-1/#comment-40346</link>
		<dc:creator>I&#8217;m Back &#124; Karen J Lloyd\'s Storyboard Blog</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2009 04:57:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I&#8217;m teaching again. Yes, I am once again the storyboard instructor at the Vancouver Film School. If you are planning on attending there in the near future, it will be I who whips you into storyboarding shape and crushes your dreams. [...]</description>
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<p>[...] I&#8217;m teaching again. Yes, I am once again the storyboard instructor at the Vancouver Film School. If you are planning on attending there in the near future, it will be I who whips you into storyboarding shape and crushes your dreams. [...]</p>
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		<title>By: A Few Announcements and Processing the Process &#124; Karen J Lloyd\'s Storyboard Blog</title>
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		<dc:creator>A Few Announcements and Processing the Process &#124; Karen J Lloyd\'s Storyboard Blog</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Apr 2009 00:36:39 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>[...] if you need some guidance and feedback, let me help [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Karen J Lloyd</title>
		<link>http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/2009/02/27/dealing-with-feedback/comment-page-1/#comment-20366</link>
		<dc:creator>Karen J Lloyd</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:56:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Aww man! That sounds pretty brutal. At least that experience didn&#039;t turn you off writing for good.

And if you didn&#039;t even get told *why* it was bad, then what kind of learning is that?? I mean, give you something!

The whole class in on it didn&#039;t help the ego any, I&#039;m sure. Waa. It&#039;s perfectly natural for it to hurt. 

And yeah, TOO creative...that&#039;s it. Stick with that one. ;)
K</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Aww man! That sounds pretty brutal. At least that experience didn&#8217;t turn you off writing for good.</p>
<p>And if you didn&#8217;t even get told *why* it was bad, then what kind of learning is that?? I mean, give you something!</p>
<p>The whole class in on it didn&#8217;t help the ego any, I&#8217;m sure. Waa. It&#8217;s perfectly natural for it to hurt. </p>
<p>And yeah, TOO creative&#8230;that&#8217;s it. Stick with that one. <img src=\'http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif\' alt=\';)\' class=\'wp-smiley\' /><br />
K</p>
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		<title>By: t.sterling</title>
		<link>http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/2009/02/27/dealing-with-feedback/comment-page-1/#comment-20355</link>
		<dc:creator>t.sterling</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:43:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I kinda laugh at the subject of this post, &quot;Crushing of Dreams&quot; because that&#039;s almost literally what happened to me in my freshman year of college when I was majoring in creative writing. I took a narrative techniques class, and for our final project we had to write a short story  about whatever we wanted (I forget the length). So I chose to write about a dream I had that I *thought* made a good story. Perhaps it was how I wrote it, or a lame &quot;twist&quot; ending, I really don&#039;t know but those are legit reasons. 

The way the class was set up, we (as a class) critique everyone&#039;s work. Everyone said what the liked and did not like, as well as wrote reviews that would get graded and passed back to the author. Everyone liked everyone&#039;s story except for mine. It was the first time I had been critically panned. And man, did it hurt. I, and my dream, had been crushed. Okay, not everyone hated it, since I had one friend in that class, I included her in the story, so how could she hate it?

Anyway, I can&#039;t recall the teacher ever telling me what exactly was wrong with my story, other than agreeing with the other students at the time. I just imagine my manuscript being marked with red ink, but I can&#039;t remember if that was her thing. I didn&#039;t care for the way she &quot;taught&quot; the class either... but all of that doesn&#039;t matter now. I did learn to take criticism much better since then, as well as how to tell better stories. I didn&#039;t accept bad reviews then and felt bitter about it for a long time. I was actually kicked out of the creative writing program (I had some other problems in that class), but I like to say that I was booted for being too creative.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I kinda laugh at the subject of this post, &#8220;Crushing of Dreams&#8221; because that&#8217;s almost literally what happened to me in my freshman year of college when I was majoring in creative writing. I took a narrative techniques class, and for our final project we had to write a short story  about whatever we wanted (I forget the length). So I chose to write about a dream I had that I *thought* made a good story. Perhaps it was how I wrote it, or a lame &#8220;twist&#8221; ending, I really don&#8217;t know but those are legit reasons. </p>
<p>The way the class was set up, we (as a class) critique everyone&#8217;s work. Everyone said what the liked and did not like, as well as wrote reviews that would get graded and passed back to the author. Everyone liked everyone&#8217;s story except for mine. It was the first time I had been critically panned. And man, did it hurt. I, and my dream, had been crushed. Okay, not everyone hated it, since I had one friend in that class, I included her in the story, so how could she hate it?</p>
<p>Anyway, I can&#8217;t recall the teacher ever telling me what exactly was wrong with my story, other than agreeing with the other students at the time. I just imagine my manuscript being marked with red ink, but I can&#8217;t remember if that was her thing. I didn&#8217;t care for the way she &#8220;taught&#8221; the class either&#8230; but all of that doesn&#8217;t matter now. I did learn to take criticism much better since then, as well as how to tell better stories. I didn&#8217;t accept bad reviews then and felt bitter about it for a long time. I was actually kicked out of the creative writing program (I had some other problems in that class), but I like to say that I was booted for being too creative.</p>
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		<title>By: Karen J Lloyd</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karen J Lloyd</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:35:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Franko! Thanks, it&#039;s always a pleasure when you visit. :)

I hope they drop by too (say &quot;Hi&quot; if you do!). 

And pretty soon they will have many more templates to scamper off with.

@ Eyeteaguy - Great article. Leave it to the older folks to tell it like it is. Thanks. :)

K</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Franko! Thanks, it&#8217;s always a pleasure when you visit. <img src=\'http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif\' alt=\':)\' class=\'wp-smiley\' /> </p>
<p>I hope they drop by too (say &#8220;Hi&#8221; if you do!). </p>
<p>And pretty soon they will have many more templates to scamper off with.</p>
<p>@ Eyeteaguy &#8211; Great article. Leave it to the older folks to tell it like it is. Thanks. <img src=\'http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif\' alt=\':)\' class=\'wp-smiley\' /> </p>
<p>K</p>
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		<title>By: Eyeteaguy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Eyeteaguy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Mar 2009 14:35:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>http://www.esquire.com/features/what-ive-learned/clint-eastwood-quotes-0109?click=main_sr</description>
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		<title>By: Franko</title>
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		<dc:creator>Franko</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Mar 2009 02:07:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Karen

I&#039;m just dropping by from sticky ol&#039; Brisbane. Your post, this post with all the wonderful follow up comments, inspired me to make a post on my animation teacher&#039;s blog. I hope my students drop by your blog to read your posts and not just scamper off with the templates.

Humid, frangipani scented regards</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Karen</p>
<p>I&#8217;m just dropping by from sticky ol&#8217; Brisbane. Your post, this post with all the wonderful follow up comments, inspired me to make a post on my animation teacher&#8217;s blog. I hope my students drop by your blog to read your posts and not just scamper off with the templates.</p>
<p>Humid, frangipani scented regards</p>
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		<title>By: Karen J Lloyd</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karen J Lloyd</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:48:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That is ironic. Somehow I was expecting some criticism. ;)

Don&#039;t get me started on the kid thing! This whole &quot;everyone wins, no one loses&quot; thing they do in schools and sports is so wrong in my opinion.

It creates unrealistic expectations when they grow up and get out in the real world. &quot;What? I&#039;m NOT perfect? What? I have to WORK at something? What? I don&#039;t get everything I want all the time?&quot; 

*sigh*

By trying to &#039;protect&#039; kids in this fashion, they are damaging them. It&#039;s a shame. 

But of course I can&#039;t say anything because I don&#039;t have kids. :)
K</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That is ironic. Somehow I was expecting some criticism. <img src=\'http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif\' alt=\';)\' class=\'wp-smiley\' /> </p>
<p>Don&#8217;t get me started on the kid thing! This whole &#8220;everyone wins, no one loses&#8221; thing they do in schools and sports is so wrong in my opinion.</p>
<p>It creates unrealistic expectations when they grow up and get out in the real world. &#8220;What? I&#8217;m NOT perfect? What? I have to WORK at something? What? I don&#8217;t get everything I want all the time?&#8221; </p>
<p>*sigh*</p>
<p>By trying to &#8216;protect&#8217; kids in this fashion, they are damaging them. It&#8217;s a shame. </p>
<p>But of course I can&#8217;t say anything because I don&#8217;t have kids. <img src=\'http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif\' alt=\':)\' class=\'wp-smiley\' /><br />
K</p>
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		<title>By: Eyeteaguy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Eyeteaguy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 15:12:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great post!  And so very true.  I have 2 young children and I give them lots of freedom but if they do something wrong, I correct them, or suggest they try another way.  Other parents rant at me that I am &quot;stifling&quot; them.  Riiiiight.  If we continue to praise them for doing nothing, what will happen when they get their first taste of &quot;you did it wrong, try again&quot;  Meltdown?  

Anyway, I suffer from the exact opposite problem that you write about at work.  I am rarely critisized.  Mostly because no one knows what I do.  And it is damaging.  I try to join groups and get ideas but there is nothing like a boss saying, &quot;Nope, that is not the way.&quot;  It does stretch you and force you to learn. The ego takes a bruising but you are better for it I think.

Anyway,  your post is right.  How ironic, I have no citicism for you.

Eyeteaguy</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great post!  And so very true.  I have 2 young children and I give them lots of freedom but if they do something wrong, I correct them, or suggest they try another way.  Other parents rant at me that I am &#8220;stifling&#8221; them.  Riiiiight.  If we continue to praise them for doing nothing, what will happen when they get their first taste of &#8220;you did it wrong, try again&#8221;  Meltdown?  </p>
<p>Anyway, I suffer from the exact opposite problem that you write about at work.  I am rarely critisized.  Mostly because no one knows what I do.  And it is damaging.  I try to join groups and get ideas but there is nothing like a boss saying, &#8220;Nope, that is not the way.&#8221;  It does stretch you and force you to learn. The ego takes a bruising but you are better for it I think.</p>
<p>Anyway,  your post is right.  How ironic, I have no citicism for you.</p>
<p>Eyeteaguy</p>
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		<title>By: Karen J Lloyd</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karen J Lloyd</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:21:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Alex - Yes, that ego thing. Big part of the equation sometimes, isn&#039;t it? :)

K</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Alex &#8211; Yes, that ego thing. Big part of the equation sometimes, isn&#8217;t it? <img src='http://karenjlloyd.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>K</p>
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